Millions of people turn to online dating apps or social networking sites to meet someone. But instead of finding romance, many find a scammer trying to trick them into sending money. Read about the stories romance scammers make up and learn the #1 tip for avoiding a romance scam.


In 2018, people reported losing $143 million to romance scam a higher total than for any other type of scam reported to the FTC. The median reported loss was $2,600, and, for people over 70, it was $10,000.

The median reported loss to romance scams was $2,600, about seven times higher than for other frauds (2018).

Romance scammers create fake profiles on dating sites and apps, or contact their targets through popular social media sites like Instagram, Facebook, or Google Hangouts. The scammers strike up a relationship with their targets to build their trust, sometimes talking or chatting several times a day. Then, they make up a story and ask for money.


The Lies Romance Scammers Tell


They often say they are living or traveling outside of the United States. We've heard about scammers who say they are:


  • + Working on an oil rig
  • + Serving in the military
  • + A doctor with an international organization

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We've heard about romance scammers asking their targets for money to:


  • Pay for a plane ticket or other travel expenses
  • Pay for surgery or other medical expenses
  • Pay customs fees to retrieve something
  • Pay off gambling debts
  • Pay for a visa or other official travel documents

Scammers ask people to pay: By wiring money with reload cards like MoneyPak or gift cards from vendors like Amazon, Google Play, iTunes, or Steam.


Scammers ask you to pay by wiring money, with reload cards, or with gift cards because they can get cash quickly and remain anonymous. They also know the transactions are almost impossible to reverse.


How to Avoid Losing Money to a Romance Scammer


Here is the bottom line: Never send money or gifts to a sweetheart you have not met in person.


If you suspect a romance scam:


  • Stop communicating with the person immediately.
  • Talk to someone you trust and pay attention if your friends or family say they are concerned about your new love interest.
  • Do a search for the type of job the person has to see if other people have heard similar stories. For example, you could do a search for oil rig scammers or US Army scammers. You can also browse the comments on ftc.gov blog posts about romance scams to hear other people stories:

  • Do a reverse image search of the person profile picture to see if it's associated with another name or with details that don't match up, those are signs of a scam.

If you think it's a scam, report it the FTC at ftc.gov/complaint. Notify the website or app where you met the scammer, too.

If you paid a romance scammer with a gift card, contact the company that issued the card right away. Tell them you paid a scammer with the gift card and ask if they can refund your money.



Resources for Help, Support, or Advice


Remember even if you follow these tips, no method of risk reduction is perfect. If you have a negative experience, please know that it is not your fault and help is available. Report any incidents and consider reaching out to one of the resources below.

If you feel you are in immediate danger or need emergency assistance, call 911 (U.S. or Canada) or your local law enforcement agency.

RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | online.rainn.org | www.rainn.org

Planned Parenthood
1-800-230-7526 | www.plannedparenthood.org

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 | www.thehotline.org

National Human Trafficking Hotline
1-888-272-7888 or text 233733 | www.humantraffickinghotline.org

National Sexual Violence Resource Center
1-877-739-3895 | www.nsvrc.org

National Center for Missing & Exploited Children
1-800-THE-LOST (843-5678) | www.cybertipline.com

Cyber Civil Rights Initiative
1-844-878-2274 | www.cybercivilrights.org

VictimConnect - Crime Victim Resource Center
1-855-4VICTIM (855-484-2856) | www.victimconnect.org

FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center
www.ic3.gov

LGBT National Help Center
1-888-843-4564 | www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org

Trans Lifeline
1-877-565-8860 (US) or 1-877-330-6366 (CA) | www.translifeline.org

Infographic shows the signs of and gives tips to avoid a romance or online dating scam